Thursday, September 16, 2010

Are you adopted?

I swear this conversation really happened.  Back when I first got out of college, I was a teacher.  An eager, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed new teacher.  Ready to introduce myself to all the other teachers in the school.

"Hi, I'm Kristen Truong. I'm the new teacher in Classroom 10."

"Hi, I'm Jane Teacher (name obvious changed).  Are you adopted?"  Jane is now looking at me a peculiar way.

"Ummmm.... no...."  My brain is now processing what she just said.  Adopted?  Where did that come from?  Left field?  Who asks that during introductions?  Why does she think I'm adopted?

Then... I get it. 

"No.  I'm married." 
I'm a white girl with an Asian name.  I introduce myself to people, and they are confused. Unless my husband is present, many people cannot come up with the most likely scenario -- that I'm married.  Is it really that hard to figure out??? 
"Oh... Where is your husband from?"

"From Michigan, but he's originally from New York. I'm from Michigan, too." I know this is not the information she wants, but I'm annoyed.  I also provide the information she's seeking.  "He's Vietnamese."

"OHHHH.  I knew your name sounded foreign."
This was prompted by Mama Kat's writing prompt to talk about an awkward conversation.

Mama's Losin' It

PS:  I know I put my full name in this post, and that's a big "no, no" in the bloggy world, but it was just so needed for the context, that I just thought... what the heck.  Yep, I've invited the stalkers.  I'm so edgy like that.  As if you couldn't already find me by just looking for a white girl with an Asian last name...  :P


Rachel said...

Nice. I am married to a Kenyan man and now have his Kenyan last name instead of my previous strong English one. No one's ever asked if I was adopted, but being a white girl with a *foreign* name definitely confuses people!

theworkinghousewife said...

Hahaaha. Love your post.
I seriously think though that schools should run a mandatory 30 mins/day etiquette class, so people learn that there are certain questions that are completely inappropriate to ask, especially within ten seconds of meeting someone, lol.

kisatrtle said...

you should have totally messed with her and said, OMG I never thought of that! Do you think all this time that my parents have been lying to me? Do you think I am adopted and they never told me. Do you think I should call them? What would you do? What do you think i should do. I know...I'll ask my Vietnamese husband. Then I would have called her an ass and walked away.

Rachel M. said...

Why do total strangers feel so free to provide judgmental commentary? Just the other day I met a women through my yoga class who asked if I had returned to work yet after having my baby. Yes I answered. She immediately asked who was watching the baby. My husband I answered. Oh, that's good she says, you wouldn't want to put him in day care! Seriously lady? What if that was my choice?

Booyah's Momma said...

It's funny... I AM adopted, so I get comments like that occasionally, but in reverse. People can't seem to understand how an Asian girl could possibly have a non-Asian last name!

Mama Kat said...

I miss my maiden name for just that reason.

If someone starts stalking you DON'T come here!! ;)

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